Posts Tagged ‘Jen Singer’

Tag - I’m It!

Monday, January 5th, 2009

I was tagged in an online game of tag by Jen Singer over at her terrific MommaBlog at That means I'm now part of a huge Internet-wide game of posting
"Seven Things You Didn't Know About Me."

Here goes:

  1. When I was a teenager, I worked for a restaurant with this oh-so-imaginative name: "The Beef and Turkey." The head cook occasionally burned the turkey when he didn't keep an eye on it because he was sneaking off to smoke a joint outside.
  2. The first time I tried to impress a boy, by going all out on that game where you swing really high on the swings and then jump off and see how far you can jump, my top got caught on the swing and ripped and I accidentally put on a show for the neighborhood kids. King crab legs(Not that there was anything to see at that point.)
  3. I grew up with a Labrador Retriever that I tried like heck to turn into a horse at one point. Built her a stable out of a wooden shipping crate. Made a halter. "Taught" her to jump over things. Hey, she loved the attention. At least I never tried to ride her!
  4. I hate black licorice and anything related to black licorice, including the green version of NyQuil. Phhht.
  5. The only athletic activity that I can beat my husband at is water skiing. (Or at least that was the case 15 years ago at Club Med on our honeymoon…)
  6. I love John Cusack movies, especially "Say Anything."
  7. One of my favorite meals on the planet is a whole pile of Costco's crab legs. Steam those babies, melt a little butter and I'm in heaven.

Tag, you're it to Jill Grace at Creative Grace. Go for it, Jill! (Only you have to do yours as a scrapbook page and use stamps!)

Hey Corporate Sponsors! How About a Little Halloween $$$ Help This Year?

Friday, October 24th, 2008

trick or treating in the marina district of sa...Jen Singer has the right idea. As the owner of the first house on a VERY popular street for trick-or-treaters, Jen is looking for a little “Halloween bailout” from corporate America to help sponsor the huge pile of candy she’ll be buying soon. In fact, I’ll let her make her pitch right here.

OK, all you companies out there. I’m betting that if you stop by and agree to add an extra zero or two to that check, Jen will even let you put up a few yard signs. So be generous. After all, have you priced a bag of Mars bars lately?

Saying No to Kids in a Yes Culture

Monday, September 22nd, 2008

A terrific writing buddy of mine, Kathy Seal, has an article in Scouting magazine this month that I think is a must-read. (And hey, I'm quoted in it. Bonus!)

Here's an excerpt from "Saying No to Children in a Yes Culture":

One day Jen Singer’s sons, 11-year-old Nicholas and 9-year-old
Christopher, started fighting in the car on the way to their piano
lessons. The boys, both Cub Scouts, knew their Mom would buy them pizza
before the lesson only if they got along. So Singer pulled her car to
the side of the road, turned off the motor, and told them, “No pizza
today, guys.”

“But Mom, but Mom!” the boys cried.

“Sorry boys, that’s it,” she told them. “When you can stop fighting, I’ll start driving again.”

“You have to say no now and then,” Singer explains, “or they’ll grow up thinking everything will go their way. But it won’t.” 

Seal goes on to note that psychologist David Walsh says if parents can learn to
say “no” at appropriate times, they’ll teach their children how to
delay gratification, a key skill for success in school and in life.

Check out this excellent article. And let us know, in comments, how you handle saying no with your kids.

Time to Fess Up, Mom!

Monday, June 16th, 2008

Over at, it's time to enter the "You Deserve a Day Off" TrueMom Confessays™ contest. The deadline is June 22nd at noon ET, so start writing or videotaping! You just might win a $250 spa gift basket or a gift certificate from has teamed up with to celebrate "Please Take My Children to Work Day" with a contest designed to make moms laugh. Share your stories of the craziest thing you've ever done in the name of motherhood!

P.S. Check out this great video Confessay from Jen Singer of

“Mommying Your Husband” Hits a Nerve

Wednesday, June 4th, 2008

I was jazzed to see that my post yesterday, about a article on "mommying your husband" is now #12 on the Hot List over at (See the Cafe Mom post and comments here.) The women commenting over there are talking about everything from making their husband's lunch to setting out his vitamins to making all his appointments.

But I really like Jen Singer's comments on yesterday's post here:

"Okay, that's insane. And it's ruining it for the rest of us. About 15 years ago, my husband wore too-casual shoes to a wedding.
When his sister and her friends discovered he'd underdressed for the
event, they blamed ME. Huh? He's a grown man. I don't dress him like a Ken doll to take him out."

Check Out My New Health Column, “Boo-Boos, Germs & Pap Smears” on

Monday, May 19th, 2008

I excited to share the news that I’m the new family health columnist over at one of my favorite sites, Visit "Boo-Boos, Germs & Pap Smears" on the home page under "What’s New in Linger."

You’ll also find columnist Mary Collette Rogers writing about everyday good eating; you’ll enjoy words of wisdom from Karen Bannan, the "Natural-as-Possible" mom; you’ll fall off your noodle for Judy Gruen’s "Off My Noodle: Carb-Free Humor for the Mom on the Go;" and you’ll find parent-friendly movie reviews by Jane Louise Boursaw in "Reel Life With Jane."

Mia Geiger writes the "Read ‘Em & Reap" column, focusing on children’s books related to mothering. Brette Sember, who writes the "Parenting Together Apart" column, discusses everything you need to know for parenting after separation and divorce. And Apryl Chapman Thomas shares terrific traveling-with-kids tips in "Have Children, Will Travel."

But wait, there’s more! "Make Payable to Mom" by Gwen Moran; "Lean Green Family" by Leah Ingram; "Bringing Up Geeks" by Marybeth Hicks; "Pulse on Parenting" by Lynne Ticknor; "Buzz on the Birds & Bees" by Melanie Davis" and "Teen Wise" by Pamela Oldham. There’s something here for every parent, no matter how old your kids are. (Well, OK, I don’t see a "Geezer Parenting" column — yet!)

I’m so happy to be in the company of these terrific columnists, and I hope you’ll stop by to see what’s new!

Welcome Jen Singer! (And Yes, She’s a Good Mom)

Thursday, April 17th, 2008

Today we’re pleased to chat with Jen Singer, author of You’re a Good Mom…And Your Kids Aren’t So Bad Either: 14 Secrets for Finding Happiness Between Super Mom and Slacker Mom.

For 21st Century mothers, there often seem to be just two choices: Super Mom
or Slacker Mom. One’s bad for you; one’s bad for your kids. So what’s a
mom to do? Singer offers secrets for raise perfectly good kids in that sweet spot
between flash cards at breakfast and “donuts for dinner, kids!” The
book is available on Amazon and at bookstores everywhere.

Thanks for making Parent Talk Today a stop on your blog tour, Jen! Now on to our Q&A:

Q.    How did motherhood get to be so competitive?

Jen Singer: It started with the very first Baby on Board sticker, most likely stuck on a 1985 Volvo. Since then, our society went child centric – and a little crazy, too. We’ve raised the motherhood bar so impossibly high, we can’t reach it. We drive our kids to not one, not two, but three activities and sports in a week – sometimes in a day. We use flash cards at stop lights and play music for our kids in utero. (Have you ever tried to listen to music underwater? It sounds all wrong.)

Q. That’s why we all feel like slacker moms, right? We can’t keep up.

Jen: And then we give up, and eventually, we’re serving donuts for dinner and letting our kids watch Desperate Housewives, because it’s easier than sending them to bed. But that’s bad for our kids, and trying to be a Super Mom is bad for us. There’s a sweet spot in between where you can raise good kids without losing yourself.

Q. So how can moms find that in between spot?

Jen: The first secret to finding happiness in 21st century motherhood is to realize that Super Mom is faking it and Slacker Mom isn’t as cool as she appears to be. The town über mom probably only gets to put her feet up at the gynecologist’s office. The rest of the time, she’s frantically trying to make perfect kids in her perfect house. She’s exhausted and her kids are, too.

The cool mom, on the other hand, has no idea what her kids are up to while she sucks down Diet Cokes and watches like-minded women on Moment of Truth. And now that there are web sites where kids as young as eight can build a virtual bimbo, breast implants and all, that’s pretty darn scary.

Q. But what if you want to do right by your kids? Don’t you have to sign them up for lots of activities just to keep up with everyone else?

Jen: Here’s one of my tips: Don’t be a frequent flyer. In other words, you don’t have to fill out all those flyers for karate and drama camp and math enrichment just because they come home with your kids. Pick one or two activities that your children are excited about, and sign up for those. And – I know this one is hard in the age of travel sports – let your kids play one sport per season, especially if they’re under 10. It’ll be easier on them and on the mileage of your mini-van.

Q. What if all the other moms are doing it?

Jen: Be a rebel mom. I know it’s hard to be the only mother who puts her foot down and doesn’t let her kid watch The Simpsons or play Halo. These days, it’s also much harder to shield our kids from age inappropriate media because there’s so much of it out there. But it pains me that even second graders watch CSI, which has gruesome crime scenes that even make grown-ups like me flinch. It’s more work to be your kids’ filter nowadays, but it’s also more important than ever to protect them from things they’re not ready for because there’s so much of it out there.

Q. Do you think the Internet helps or hinders today’s moms?

Jen: One of the best things for modern motherhood is the Internet. Also, one of the worst things for modern motherhood is the Internet. On the one hand, we can find blogs and web sites like this one that give us a sense of community, answer our parenting questions and even make us laugh. But we can also innocently look up the rash our kid has and wind up convincing ourselves that it’s a flesh-eating parasite from the Amazon, when we haven’t even gone hiking in a park, let alone in the jungle. Google wisely.

Q. What one tip would you give moms who are trying to find happiness?

Jen: Use triage. Pick out only those things that are truly important to you and your family, and aim for those. Take volunteering jobs that allow you to see your kids, like being a Cub Scouts den leader or escorting on the class trip. Build in playtime to your calendar – for the kids and for you. Move the computer into the family room so you can see what your kids are doing online. Then let everything that’s less important go. Really, do you have to bake cupcakes for your child’s birthday celebration at school when the bakery will do that for you?

Q. Do you think you’re a good mom?

Jen: It depends on the day! When my kids were toddlers, I used to feel guilty for folding laundry instead of entertaining them, even though I was spending upwards of 100 hours a week with them as a full-time at-home mom. I thought I had to constantly create teachable moments in order to prepare them for the future. But I really needed to teach them independence and self sufficiency. I’m not going to be there to help them pick out lunch or manage homework at college, after all. A good mom gets her kids ready for life on their own – and prepares herself for life without her kids.

Join Us Friday When The “You’re a Good Mom” Blog Tour Stops Here!

Monday, April 14th, 2008

For 21st Century mothers, there seem to be just two choices: Live up to
the Super Mom or give up to be the Slacker Mom. One’s bad for you;
one’s bad for your kids. So what’s a momma to do?

In You’re a Good Mom (and Your Kids Aren’t So Bad Either): The
14 Secrets to Finding Happiness B
etween Super Mom and Slacker Mom," the
Internet’s favorite momma, Jen Singer, tells all. Turns out you can
raise perfectly good kids in that sweet spot between flash cards at
breakfast and "donuts for dinner, kids!" You’ll find great tips like

  • Don’t answer the phone when the class mom calls.
  • Your kid’s birthday party isn’t your coming-out celebration.
  • Don’t treat fine restaurants like a McDonald’s PlayPlace.
  • You think you’re a "cool mom," but they think you’re a pushover.

Filled with "that happened to me, too!" stories, YOU’RE A GOOD MOM
offers giggles and a pat on the back for today’s moms, whether they’re
deep in diapers or petrified by puberty.

Join us Friday for a great Q & A with author Jen Singer as she stops by Parent Talk Today on her blog tour!

And check out this terrific You Tube video preview:

Laugh it Up at

Saturday, March 15th, 2008

Hey mom! Need a break? Grab that non-fat latte and head over to, the creation of Jen Singer, a terrific mom, a very funny writer and a chick with fab hair. was created in 2003 as a virtual community for full- and part-time
stay-at-home mothers around the world, says Singer. One of my favorite spots on the site is the Back Fence, where moms share stories like this one, which Singer has generously allowed me to re-print here:

Pretty as a Picture

Thanks to Rebecca Norton of Norfolk, Massachusetts, for this story:

"I was on my way out the door to my cousin’s
bridal shower. I really don’t like bridal showers, but I found great joy in putting on some ‘real clothes’ with no stains
and ‘real shoes’ that were not good for chasing children.

"When my four-year-old daughter saw me, she said, ‘Mommy, can I take your picture? Because we don’t get
to see you pretty!’"