Posts Tagged ‘Child’

The Parenting Thing: Dads Just Do It Differently

Saturday, November 7th, 2009

Dads

OK mom, be honest. Have you ever pushed your partner aside because he didn’t diaper the baby exactly the right way, didn’t make the eggs the way your daughter likes them, didn’t follow the bedtime routine to the letter?

And then did you complain because Dad retreated to the den with the TV remote and didn’t participate with the kids the way you think he should?

According to an article in the New York Times this week, “uninvolved fathers have long been accused of lacking motivation. But research shows that… even as more fathers are changing diapers, dropping the children off at school and coaching soccer, they are often pushed aside in ways large and small.”

It’s easy to disagree on discipline, TV limits — even how to change a diaper. That’s why it’s so important for parents to talk, and for moms to perhaps loosen the reins just a bit and realize that Dad may parent a little differently, but that it’s not necessarily a bad thing.

Check out the article and let me know what you think. (This means you, too, dads!)

What’s Your Parenting Pet Peeve?

Monday, November 2nd, 2009

I’m so jazzed to welcome Judy Molland as a guest blogger today. She’s the author of Get Out! 150 Easy Ways for Kids and Grown-Ups to Get Into Nature and Build a Greener Future and Straight Talk About Schools Today. Take it away, Judy!

One of my pet peeves is witnessing bad parenting. A couple of weeks ago, on a beautiful fall day, I was hiking down Lembert Dome in Yosemite National Park with my husband. Actually, it wasn’t just beautiful, it was perfect: bright blue sky, just a few clouds, gorgeous orange and russet leaves on the trees, a crisp chill in the air.

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Who’s in Charge, Here?

Thursday, August 13th, 2009

Terrific piece today over on Babble.com: "Anarchy in the Pre-K: Is Your Household a "Kindergarcy"? 

The word is defined by Paul
McFedries on The Word Spy as "Rule or domination by children; the
belief that children's needs and preferences take precedence over those
of their parents or other adults. "Who's in charge here," indeed!

"This new word has spread quickly,
concisely capturing the feeling that the lollipops of childhood have
been replaced by royal scepters, with which parents and bystanders are
soundly bludgeoned," says author Mark Peters.

In the Sydney Morning Herald,
Michael Duffy sums up the feelings behind the word: "Ours is a society
increasingly dominated by the needs of children, or rather by the
extraordinarily inflated needs we have come to attribute to them. The
amount of money and attention many parents lavish on their children not
only doesn't do much for the characters of their sons and daughters, it
diminishes the parents' lives as well."

What
do you think? Are parents today raising a generation of spoiled brats?
Are we putting adult needs aside, in favor of those of our children, to
a ridiculous point? Are you allowing yourself to be run ragged in the
name of good parenting?