Posts Tagged ‘bullying’

Bullying Victim Nadin Khoury Speaks Out on The View

Monday, February 14th, 2011

I know a lot of you have seen this clip, but it needs to be seen by as many people as possible. This is one brave young man, and who knows what other child he may be helping by speaking out now?

Free E-Course: Bullying — What Parents Should Know

Wednesday, January 12th, 2011

Jennifer O’Donnell, a terrific writer and editor on all things parenting-related, has created a free e-course on bullying. With her permission, I’m including all the info here so you can easily sign up to receive the course materials. (Did I mention that it’s FREE?) Also check out Jennifer’s wonderful About.com Tweens column.Be sure to sign up for her free newsletter while you’re there, too. Great info. Thanks, Jennifer!

Bullying can be a threat to any student, but bullying behavior peaks in the middle school years, and the consequences can be severe and forever damaging. Here’s what parents should know about bullying, bullies, victims, and types of bullying. The more you know, the more you can help your child.

This free e-course will be delivered in four lessons, one per day. Here’s what you’ll learn about preventing and dealing with bullying:

  • Day One: Bullying and Middle School
  • Day Two: The Different Types of Bullying
  • Day Three: All About Victims and Bullies
  • Day Four: The Effects of Bullying
  • Our Most Popular Posts: Disneyland, Bullying, Girls’ Sexy Costumes… And Some Truly Obnoxious Commercials

    Tuesday, January 4th, 2011

    It’s always interesting to look at the stats for Parent Talk Today to see the list of the most-popular posts. (If you ever want to check out the current popular posts, just look in the right sidebar.)

    As we head into 2011, here are the most-popular posts:

    For 2011, what would you like to see us talk about here? This is YOUR place to discuss parenting issues, from pregnancy through college. I’d love to have your suggestions. Thanks for all your support!

    Has Your Child Been Bullied? Journalist Would Like to Interview You

    Saturday, January 1st, 2011

    A journalist friend of mine, who is writing an article for a national publication, would like to talk with a parent whose child has been bullied. If this is you, how did you handle the situation? What were the results?

    If you are interested in being included in the article, you would need to use your real name and you and your child would be photographed, but your child could be turned away from the camera so his or her face wouldn’t be shown.

    If you’d be willing to be interviewed, please contact me via email: kathy at kathysena.com. I will give my friend your contact info.

    Thanks!

    Ladies’ Home Journal Tackles Issue of Gay-Teen Bullying and Suicide

    Tuesday, November 30th, 2010

    The stories about recent suicides by gay teens who had been bullied have been all over the news. This month, Ladies’ Home Journal has taken an in-depth look at what’s going on here.

    According to the article by Kenneth Miller, 52 percent of Americans consider homosexuality morally acceptable, according to a recent Gallup poll. “Kids can join gay-straight alliance groups at more than 4,000 high schools and more than 150 middle schools nationwide and find advice and support online,” says Miller in the article. “Yet according to the Journal of Adolescent Health, about one-third of gay, lesbian, and bisexual teens report an attempt at suicide. Why are so many still driven to try to take their own life?”

    Check out this excellent article, then please share your thoughts here. And kudos to Ladies’ Home Journal for talking about this issue.

    Get Your Free Cyber Security Guide for Parents

    Thursday, October 21st, 2010

    Thanks to the folks at SafetyWeb for providing a wonderful, detailed, new guide for parents, “Cyber Security in the 21st Century.” You can download it as a free PDF here.

    One of the most important things to talk about with your kids when it comes to being safe online is sharing personal information and photos over Facebook, Twitter, etc. Thanks to SafetyWeb for allowing me to share these tips for parents, which are also appropriate for kids:

    • Don’t post the exact details of your whereabouts before the fact. Announcing the exact dates of a two-week vacation; reporting when and where a child goes to and leaves school; saying anything that tells strangers too much about your location or your kids’ locations should be avoided.

    • If you choose to upload photos to a social networking site via a smart phone, turn off geotagging.

    • Monitor kids’ networked friends. Be sure they understand that they should not accept invitations from people they don’t know.

    • Do not include too many personal details. Birth month and day is adequate, for example, especially for information about children, but the same applies to adults, too.

    • Use avatars or pet pictures for kids on social networking sites.

    • Understand that Skype and other VoIP software can share too much information, too. Share information judiciously.

    • Think before posting anything – pictures, facts or opinions. Privacy is a relative term on a social networking site, and things travel quickly on the Internet.

    • Set and maintain your security settings. Do not assume that the site’s default settings are the best for you.

    Guest Post: I Was Bullied As a Kid

    Tuesday, October 19th, 2010

    Stacy Lipson is a terrific freelance journalist and a woman who’s not afraid to speak up. I’m so happy that she wanted to share this very personal post with you, and I think she sends a critical message to parents.

    We need to talk with our kids about bullying. Someone’s children are doing the bullying. Someone’s children are either joining in, standing by and doing nothing or standing up for the rights of the kids who are getting bullied and saying “this is not OK.”

    Please take a moment to read about what Stacy went through as a child and a young teenager. Then sit down at the dinner table tonight and talk with your kids. It’s going to take all of us together to make a dent in this very real problem — which can sometimes lead to tragedy.

    Thanks, Stacy, for your post.

    Growing up, I wasn’t a part of the popular crowd. I didn’t seem to fit in with the other kids. I was terrible at sports, and with big, dorky glasses that seemed to envelop my face, I was a prime target for bullies.

    The abuse started in third grade. It began with a small paper airplane that had been tossed into my cubby hole. “You have germs. Stay away from me.”

    Later, my classmates graduated to an even better nickname: Stacy Germs. In line for lunch, on the playground, or at class events, my classmates would huddle as far away from me as possible. I felt isolated, alone, and miserable. So I did what any child would do — I told my teacher.

    My teacher held a class meeting, in which she discussed how wrong it was to tease others. Still, my classmates’ behavior was clear enough. I wasn’t a part of their group.

    As the years passed, I had trouble making friends. Every time I tried to talk with the other children. I would be shunned for being an outsider. Over time, I learned to find solace through reading. My mother would take me to the bookstore and I would spend hour upon hour delighting myself with fictional characters, immersing myself in a world full of literature and knowledge. Yet I was alone, in ways more than one. And I didn’t know how to tell anyone.

    By the time I hit seventh grade, I was a walking mess of insecurity. I was desperate to make friends, but had no idea how to do that. At the same time, my body began to change, and the bullying that I had gotten so used to over the years began to turn into a dulling roar — only this time, it was directed at my body.

    A neighborhood bully, Arthur, started to sexually harass me on the school bus. The cruel comments he made left me a quivering, crying mess by the end of the day. Day after day, I endured the comments. My sister and brother, who rode the school bus with me, would try to stand up as my ally. Still, their words fell on deaf ears. Even with three voices raised, the other students sitting beside us never said a word. More than once, multiple voices would join in the torment.

    As the abuse continued, I found myself wondering if there was something horrendously wrong with me. When I pounded my pillow at night, I wondered what I had done to make them hate me so. Was it the speech problem I had as a child, where I would accidentally slur my words? Or the way I did my hair, pulled up in a ponytail?

    I wish I could say the abuse stopped. That an adult stepped in to make it better. But it didn’t stop with the sexual harassment. In gym class, other girls would offer their own version of torture. I began to get teased for the gym shorts I wore, the t-shirts I brought. Slowly, a ball of bitterness began to sit in a hard knot at the pit of my stomach. In class, I was afraid to speak, for fear that laughter would echo throughout the room. I ached to be a part of the social scene. Still, I didn’t know how to get the abuse to stop.

    One night I confessed everything to my mother. With heaving sobs, I told her about all of it. She went to the principal, to the teachers, and to the bus driver, but the abuse never really stopped until I turned 16.

    After reading recent news reports about the astonishing number of children who have been bullied, and after reading their tales, this is what I have to say to all of the parents out there:

    You may think you understand. But you don’t. You can’t understand unless you’ve experienced it. And if you have experienced it, you know how it feels. The anxiety, fear, and sadness that seem to be a part of your daily experience. The wish that some day, not too far off, the abuse would stop. The wish to be someone else.

    I don’t like to talk about what happened to me as a child. I never thought I would need to. But I think it’s important for parents to realize that bullying is an epidemic. It’s not going to go away anytime soon, and once one child starts, the rest can join in. It’s time to do something. Children need to realize the power behind their words and actions, and parents need to make sure that their children are listening. Hard.

    I didn’t speak up then. I wish I had.

    Stacy Lipson is a freelance writer. Her work has appeared in regional and national publications. Follow her on Twitter.